Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Overwhelmed.... a little confused.

So I decided that I wanted to make sure that I had biblical backing for every decision I make. I don't want to just babble and repeat things that other people have told me but want to be able to say that I am doing things because God led me to make these decisions. I am a little overwhelmed when I sit down with the bible. I don't know where to look to find answers and I don't really know what people mean when they say "God spoke to my heart" or statements like these. I start to question whether or not I really 'got saved'. Aaron says that he thinks God speaks to us at church. That kinda makes sense because that is the only place that I really feel close to God... but then that leads me to wonder is it God or is it people??? There is just so much to learn and I feel so anxious that someone is going to ask me questions and I won't know the answers!!!! Even after being raised in church I feel like I know nothing. I want to be able to show people in the bible how I got saved so that no one can say that it wasn't God.

I'm also wondering about modesty issues and wanting to find answers that didn't come from someone's opinions or writings about how clothing styles have changed over the years. I want to find in God's word what He teaches us about modesty. It seems to me that everyone can derive their own personal standard of modesty and claim it to be Godly or biblical. People have quoted Deut. 22:5 "The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God." The problem I have with people using this verse to say that women should wear skirts is that in biblical times when this verse was written men and women all wore robes... so then they are drawing a conclusion based on a particular period in society when women wore skirts. But there are plenty of problems with this analogy. My main problem with this is that every era pushed the envelope in terms of dressing immodestly and so even though I choose to wear pants, the pants I wear are considered modest by today's standards... but the skirts that some of these women wear would have been considered immodest by the standards of those living in the 1800's - so I think we should base our modesty on God's standards not ANY of the world's standards. But I can't find anything in the bible that specifies how to judge modesty.... so confused. Someone help?


Deborah said...

I've been patiently waiting for a post to show up here!! hehehe
hmmmm...I don't really have a specific answer for you. My convictions are more on modesty than a particular 'rule' about what to wear. I believe I can be more modest in a dress than any style of pants, and it's what I've become comfortable in. I guess it's also about not looking like the world....we are to be a 'peculiar' people. Another part of it is that I have chosen to be a member of a church where dresses are the standard, and I don't want to be a stumbling block to anyone.
If you check on my blog, under ministries, there is a site called 'momof9splace' she has several artcles about modesty and clothing. Yes, you will be getting someone's opinion...but it may help you sort it all out. The best advice I can give you is to just keep praying for God to guide you. As far as 'God speaking' to you....for me it's often in church, it might not even be about what Pastor is preaching on but all of a sudden something just becomes clear to me....hard to explain...sorry!
Sometimes it's when I'm praying...I mean REALLY praying, seeking God with my whole heart.
Or while I'm reading the Bible...something will just jump out at me...like it's new...even though I've read it before.
I hope my ramblings help!
It's a good sign that you feel like you know nothing...I'd be worried if you thought you knew it all! LOL
Just keep reading, praying, and trusting....and relax...you can't take it all in at once!

DonnaMarie said...

Hey, it sounds like you are on the right track. You can ask 10 people about what it is "modest" and you will get 10 answers. For me it is making sure I am not causing someone to stumble in their walk with God or to have any type of lustful thought. Take care!

clanmama said...

Hey Nadine!
You are not alone on this one. I thought I'd share my experience with you. I never felt a personal conviction, but I wanted to be used in the church, so I was sitting on the outside and standing on the inside.I was required to wear a skirt to sing, and then to take nursery. I must have missed something in the preaching about modesty because they did preach on it. What they failed to mention was something I reaad in this book called "What in the World Should I Wear" The lady used a verse of scripture that was what convinced me.
1 Timothy 2:9-10 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; but (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
The Greek word for apparel in this text is Katastole, meaning a long dress. Kata meaning down - a garment flowing down; and Stole - a long garment, covering or wrapping. If god said it I wanted to do it.
I feel that the heart is what matters most to the Lord, if your heart is right with him you will do all you can to be pleasing, but there are folks out there who love the Lord dearly and have not been convicted in the way they dress.
Men used to wear robes and I think perhaps clothing has changed so much that even men probably should still be dressed in long flowing garments. Our culture would never accept that! I mean we weren't all born mermaids, we all have legs!
I do all things as modestly as I can, and let my conviction come from God not people, taking into acount what Debbie said (and for the sake of peoples children too) not to be a stumbling block. Sorry if I wrote a book! I hope this helps.
Take care Nadine:)