So I decided that I wanted to make sure that I had biblical backing for every decision I make. I don't want to just babble and repeat things that other people have told me but want to be able to say that I am doing things because God led me to make these decisions. I am a little overwhelmed when I sit down with the bible. I don't know where to look to find answers and I don't really know what people mean when they say "God spoke to my heart" or statements like these. I start to question whether or not I really 'got saved'. Aaron says that he thinks God speaks to us at church. That kinda makes sense because that is the only place that I really feel close to God... but then that leads me to wonder is it God or is it people??? There is just so much to learn and I feel so anxious that someone is going to ask me questions and I won't know the answers!!!! Even after being raised in church I feel like I know nothing. I want to be able to show people in the bible how I got saved so that no one can say that it wasn't God.
I'm also wondering about modesty issues and wanting to find answers that didn't come from someone's opinions or writings about how clothing styles have changed over the years. I want to find in God's word what He teaches us about modesty. It seems to me that everyone can derive their own personal standard of modesty and claim it to be Godly or biblical. People have quoted Deut. 22:5 "The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God." The problem I have with people using this verse to say that women should wear skirts is that in biblical times when this verse was written men and women all wore robes... so then they are drawing a conclusion based on a particular period in society when women wore skirts. But there are plenty of problems with this analogy. My main problem with this is that every era pushed the envelope in terms of dressing immodestly and so even though I choose to wear pants, the pants I wear are considered modest by today's standards... but the skirts that some of these women wear would have been considered immodest by the standards of those living in the 1800's - so I think we should base our modesty on God's standards not ANY of the world's standards. But I can't find anything in the bible that specifies how to judge modesty.... so confused. Someone help?